I’m “stealing” this from another web site written by Karen Ehman.  I thought it has some good tips on how to get focused on God and just wanted to share it with everyone.

5 Ways to Sit at His Feet

Friday, February 28, 2014

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If you have found your way here via my Proverbs 31 devotion, welcome! {And if you are new here, I’d love for you to connect with me on Facebook  or follow me on Twitter.}

If you haven’t read my devotion, Scurrying or Seated? click here to do so. {It is on distractions and to-do lists keeping us from connecting with God}

As mentioned in my devotion, here are 5 Ways to Sit at His Feet.

1. Give your to-do list to the Lord.

Sometimes it is so hard to hear the Lord’s voice through all of the hustle and bustle of our day. We stress and obsess about our to do list and all of our many appointments. The best way to focus in on our time with God {and to leave our to do list behind} is actually to take our to do list along with us! Get alone and get quiet. Ask God to bring to your mind all that you must get done. Make a list of these things. Then, spend time praying through each item on the list. As God brings more tasks to your mind, write them down. Don’t worry that it is unspiritual to stop halfway through a prayer and jot and item down. It helps you to clear your mind and then allows you to focus better on your time alone with God. He is concerned about all of the details of our life even if it is our plan to go grocery shopping or run to the dry cleaners.

2. Get intentional.

Treat your time alone with God as serious as any other appointment you have. When you have to go to the dentist, you brush your teeth and make sure you show up on time. Why do we assume our time alone with God will just happen spontaneously? Learn to treat it with intentionality. Write down the time you will spend with God in your planner or set an alarm on your phone. Have a plan for what you will read in the Bible or whether you will write in a journal or listen to worship music.

3. Read and write.

Get a hold of a good devotional book or Bible study workbook. Use them to help you know where to read in the Bible. But don’t just read the Bible. Write your thoughts down too. Keeping a journal–whether it is a paper one or a file on your computer or tablet—will help you grow your relationship with God. You will process as you write out your thoughts. Also learn to both read and write prayers. Read prayers in the book of Psalms out loud to God. Then, write out your own specific prayers to Him as well. It will amaze you when you go back later and see the ways that God answered your prayers.

4. Make a recording and memorize.

Use an online app or program such as Audacity to record yourself reading out loud any verses or passages of scripture you would like to memorize. Then, load them on an iPod, phone or MP3 player. Pop in the headphones and listen to the verses each day as you walk, do housework or cook dinner. It makes it so much easier to memorize this way!

5. Discover the Bible’s non-negotiables.

Grab a Bible and a notebook. Pick a New Testament book such as James or Colossians. Read it through stopping each time you see a non-negotiable command that we as Christians are supposed to do. When you come across one, write it down. For example:  James 1:19-21 says…

“My dearly loved brothers, understand this: Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for man’s anger does not accomplish God’s righteousness.  Therefore, ridding yourselves of all moral filth and evil, humbly receive the implanted word, which is able to save you.”

So you would write in your notebook:

When dealing with others, I need to:

~ Be quick to listen

~ Be slow to speak

~ Be slow to get angry because being angry doesn’t accomplish the things of God.

I must also:

~ Get rid of that which is morally wrong and evil.

~ I need to spend time planting the word of God humbly in my heart. It will save me!

When we read the Bible, we learn. However, when we write out the commands in a way that is personal to us, we allow the word to take root deep within our hearts. This will help us the next time we are faced with a situation where we need to react in a godly manner but find it challenging. When we have trained our brain to recall the nonnegotiable’s of a Christian’s behavior, it allows us to act and react in a much better way.

Weathering God’s Winter Storm

My prayer for anyone living in the path of the winter storm, stay safe and warm.

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I used to live in Michigan and Ohio, and I remember storms with heavy, wet snow, black ice, and bone-chilling cold wind.

Even though we now live in Florida, I still get shivers up my spine when I see pictures of snow blizzards, icicles, and downed power lines.

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Just because we live in Florida, doesn’t mean I don’t think of you all.  Make that cup of hot chocolate, snuggle up underneath the afghan your grandmother crocheted, and think of it as God forcing you to take a day of rest to enjoy His beautiful weather!

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The Unforgettable Angel

AngelLate on a coal-black, moonless night, my brother-in-law and I drove home. We spent a long, grueling day at the hospital with my husband in a coma. We noticed brake lights ahead. Both lanes blocked. Cars at a standstill. We were exhausted. All we envisioned was sleep.

“I wonder what happened,” I said. “I can’t see anything with no street lights. Maybe there was an accident.”

After sitting a few minutes, watching other people exit their cars, I reluctantly opened the car door. This is the last thing I needed tonight—something keeping me away from my comfortable bed.

I walked between cars. As I approached the open roadway, illuminated only by headlights, I witnessed teenage girls scattered across the highway in varying degrees of injury and pain; moaning, screaming and crying. I glanced at people standing around and astonished that no one was doing anything.

I didn’t want to get involved—I just needed to lie my head on my pillow. If I get involved, we’ll be delayed in getting home.

I repeated out loud, to no one in particular, “What happened?  Does anyone know what happened?”

I continued walking, tripping over and stepping around multiple pieces of debris: purses, school books, a bottle of cologne, papers, a single shoe, chunks of crumpled metal, a bottle of nail polish. The acrid smell of gasoline and burnt rubber hovered in the air, mixed with occasional whiffs of cologne.

An SUV overturned in the ditch—one tire slowly spinning—produced scant clouds of dust swirling in the air. The windows broken and shattered. The doors and mirrors swung haphazardly.

In my mind I prayed, Lord, help me. Being an EMT, I knew I needed to find the most severely injured girl. I maneuvered from girl to girl, each one sprawled on the ground in different locations. I noted their injuries were not life-threatening. I continually prayed, Lord, please help me find the worst one.

I almost missed the last girl lying in dark shadows off the roadway. I knew someone was there only because of the deathlike sounds of gurgling and suffocating. I barely discerned she was lying on her side with her back facing me. I briefly hesitated, fearful of what I would see when I looked into her face.

I knelt down next to her. I wondered if she’d even be able to hear my voice above the strangely loud gurgling and gasping sounds.

“Don’t move. I’m here to help you. Hold on, Honey. The ambulance will be here any minute. Don’t move.”

Her grunting and wailing escalated as she kicked and fought to move. I resorted to lying on top of her, using all my strength to hold her steady, despite her constant struggling and thrashing. Her petite body was wet and sticky with blood. The rough, grainy tar pebbles on the road gouged into my knees.

I adamantly hollered to the growing crowd, “When the ambulance gets here, send them over here. Tell them this is the worst one.”

As I prayed for this girl, I became aware of a voice next to me. Calm and soothing. Praying in the heavenly language of tongues. The surrounding area gradually became bathed in a luminous glow of hazy, white fog—even though no one had come any closer to us with lights.

I turned my head to the right. A man knelt next to me, his hands laid upon the girl. He persistently prayed. He’s dressed in all white clothing, from head to toes: a white baseball cap, white shirt, white trousers and white tennis shoes. My initial impression — he’s a painter. I thanked God for sending a Christian.

Somewhere in between praying and concentrating on keeping the girl from moving, I realized the man disappeared as quickly as he had appeared. I didn’t recollect him physically standing up and walking away.

The ambulance arrived and paramedics took over. Life Flight landed in the median of the highway. I watched as the girl was transferred into the helicopter. I stood in awe as it slowly lifted off the ground and floated into the sky. The headlights eerily shining brightly, reminded me of a similar scene out of the ET movie.

I needed to find the man in white and thank him for praying. I wanted to let him know I’m also a Christian and it comforted me to have another Christian by my side. I wandered around the multitude of people now gathered.

“Did you see the man dressed in all white? Where did he go? Did anybody see him? Where is he?”

“No, we didn’t see anyone like that.”

I eagerly scanned the crowd, looking for the man in white. “He was right there next to me with that girl. Where did he go?”

“There wasn’t anyone like that around here.”

Nowhere to be found. No one had seen him.

Weeks later, I learned the girl survived. She incurred multiple injuries, including a punctured lung. The paramedics said someone kept her from rolling onto her back, otherwise her lungs would have collapsed and she would have died.

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I was exhausted that night. I honestly didn’t want to be bothered with helping anyone. I didn’t want to give up my time. I did not want to get involved. But God hurled me into a surreal setting. I could have stood by like others in the crowd, but He gave me the strength to confront a disastrous situation. I felt isolated, incompetent, with no one else helping.

I thank God for helping me remember my EMT training. I thank Him for guiding me to the most severely injured girl. But I thank Him specifically for sending one of His awesome angels, whom I will never forget.

Living in the Moment

Two years ago my husband and I became caregivers for my mother diagnosed with dementia, which worsened rapidly over a three-month time period after she suffered a heart attack.  During those times, I often questioned my own sanity. It was a frightening unfamiliar, bizarre time period in my life.

One of my morning devotions from The Upper Room last week helped me understand a bit more regarding those “moments” with my mom, as I witnessed her decline alongside my three-year-old granddaughter’s advancement.

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The following was written by Roger Palms:

“Our cousin’s daughter shared an insight she had while watching her father and her young son eating ice cream cones together.  Her father was battling dementia, each day a bit less cognizant of what was happening around him.  Her son was growing more aware of his surroundings and his place in the world with each passing day.  Now they have passed each other — her father sliding downward and her son growing upward.  But for a moment they met around those two ice cream cones; for that short time, they were both in the same moment.

“Our moments are just that, moments.  They don’t last; they disappear and we move on.  We live in the moment, and those moments keep changing.

“God is with us in the moment, even in our difficult moments.  Our troubles are far outweighed by the eternal glory ahead.  God of our past and God of our future is right here with us — in the moment.

“Wherever this moment finds me, God is here.”

God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”
                                        Hebrews 13:5 (NIV)

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An Adoptee’s Thank You

First of all, I want to give all the praise and glory to my Lord and God, Jesus Christ. He gave me my first breath. He gave me the genetics of my birth family. He placed me in an exceptionally loving and nurturing adoptive home. He covered me with his wings through the years and protected me more than I will ever know.

Second, I want to thank my dear husband, Greg. God knew what He was doing when he put us together. You stood by me all these years, even when I didn’t deserve it. You also covered me with your love and affection, with your protection, and kept me from going over the edge many times; otherwise, I don’t know where I would be today.

I want to thank my daughters, Amy and Wendy, for putting up with my craziness and irrationalism during your lifetime, especially the times when I searched for my birth parents. I pray that my life experiences can be lessons for you and your children. I pray that you both find comfort and peace under God’s wings.

I thank my two dogs, Miya and Zee, for forcing me to walk away from my computer, when you would unceasingly bark and bark until I would let you outside to do your business. Tending to be a workaholic, I probably wouldn’t have taken any breaks if it weren’t for my two “girls.”

I thank my deceased birth mother and birth father for giving me life. I thank all their children my 12 half-siblings, for accepting me unconditionally into their families. I thank my deceased adoptive parents for relentlessly pursuing adoption until they were ultimately blessed with me. I thank them for their patience, their upright moral lifestyle, and their discipline.

My heredity from my birth parents, combined with the loving environment of my adoptive parents, all according to God’s plan, have shaped me into the person I am today.

Remembering 9-11

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Remembering 9/11

by Max Lucado, pastor and author of the new book,
You’ll Get Through This

It seems that in the dozen years since our country’s heart and skyline
were ripped apart, we still struggle with how to spend this day that
represents such pain and, even to this day, fear.

9/11 has come to serve as a day of remembrance for the many trials
we have endured as a nation over this past decade.

The continued threats and anxiety created by ongoing terror threats
have become, if not normal, an ever present stressor.

We wonder if we’ll ever be free of that sense of unease in
our daily lives.

The Boston bombing served as a reminder of this new reality.
Violence continues to tear at our country from within – the mass
shootings in Arizona, Colorado, and Sandy Hook. The unthinkable
stories of the innocent victims and instant heroes in these situations
have seared our consciousness, leaving us reeling with grief and
disbelief. Natural disasters like Hurricanes Katrina, Rita, Sandy, and
other destructive forces have scarred our land and our people.

We are weary.

We wonder: Will we get through these turbulent times? The answer
from the pages of the Bible is a resounding YES. The story of Joseph
reveals that even when life hits us with multiple blows, with God’s help,
we will overcome. On a day like September 11, the church should
remember that what man intends for evil, God can use for good.
(Genesis 50:20)

Joseph faced a famine in his day, and he focused all his efforts on
bringing life and nourishment to all. Today we face a famine of hope.
As God’s people, let’s dispense courage and sustenance to our
generation, offering a plan and a story of God’s help and goodness.

That’s how I plan to spend 9/11 this year.

Worship and remember that God is for us (Romans 8:31), and with
His help, we’ll get through this. Let’s lead a harvest of hope, together.

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Your Turn

How will you remember the 9/11 anniversary this year? If you struggle
with the daily sense of unease for our nation and for safety, read the
story of Joseph and be reminded that God does redeem the evil of this
world and use it for good. We would love to hear from you!

When You Are Broken

The now traumatic disorder of everyday life. An excellent post on aging and wrinkles and living life.

Read More of When You Are Broken

Walk By Faith

Do not fear My will, for through it I accomplish what is best for you.

Take a deep breath, and dive into the depths of absolute trust in Me.

No Credit

The Lord can do great things
through those who don’t care who gets the credit.

“A man’s pride shall bring him low; but honour
shall uphold the humble in spirit.”

Proverbs 29.23

Indiana State Adoption Laws

INDIANA ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Ann. Stat. § 31-19-22-2

1.    The following persons may request the release of identifying information:

  • An adult adopted person
  • A birth parent
  • An adoptive parent
  • The spouse or relative of a deceased adopted person
  • The spouse or relative of a deceased birth parent

 

2.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Stat. §§ 31-19-17-3; 31-19-17-5

The person, licensed child-placing agency, or county office shall release all available social, medical, psychological, and educational records concerning the child to:

  • The prospective adoptive parent or adoptive parent
  • Upon request, the adopted person who is at least age 21 and provides proof of identification

The report shall exclude information that would identify the birth parents unless the adoptive parent, prospective adoptive parent, or adopted person who requests the information knows the identity of the birth parents.

For an adoption that was granted before July 1, 1993: Upon the request of an adopted person who is at least age 21, the licensed child-placing agency or a county office shall provide to the adopted person available information of social, medical, psychological, and educational records and reports. Information that would identify the birth parents shall be excluded from the report unless an adopted person already knows the identity of the birth parents.

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Stat. §§ 31-19-22-2; 31-19-25-2; 31-19-25-2.5; 31-19-25-3

Identifying information may not be released unless the adult adopted person and the birth parent have submitted a written consent to the State Registrar or the person from whom the identifying information is requested that allows the release of the information to the individual requesting the information.

Identifying information for an adopted person who is younger than age 21 may not be released unless the adopted person’s adoptive parent has submitted a written consent for the release of identifying information.

For adoptions after December 31, 1993: Identifying information shall be released only if the adopted person has submitted a written consent to the State Registrar or the person who has requested the release of identifying information. If the adopted person is younger than age 21, identifying information may not be released unless the adopted person’s adoptive parent has submitted a written consent for the release of identifying information.

A birth parent may restrict access to his or her identifying information by filing a written nonrelease form with the State Registrar. The nonrelease form:

  • Remains in effect during the period indicated by the individual submitting the form
  • Is renewable
  • May be withdrawn at any time by the individual who submitted the form

The nonrelease form is no longer in effect if the birth parent consents in writing to the release of identifying information and has not withdrawn that consent. A nonrelease form is no longer in effect if the birth parent who filed the nonrelease form is deceased unless the nonrelease form specifically states that the nonrelease form remains in effect after the birth parent’s death.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Ann. Stat. § 31-19-13-2

The original birth certificate is withheld from inspection except for a child adopted by a stepparent or as provided in statutes pertaining to release of identifying information.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

Indiana Adoption History Registry, Indiana State Department of Health, Vital Statistics

The above information was derived from the Indiana State Statutes

Idaho State Adoption Laws

IDAHO ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Ann. Code § 39-259A

1.    Identifying information may be made available to:

  • The adult adopted person
  • The birth parents
  • Adult birth siblings

 

2.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Code § 16-1506

A copy of all medical and genetic information compiled as part of the adoption investigation shall be made available to the adopting family by the department or other investigating children’s adoption agency prior to entry of the final order of adoption.

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Code § 39-259A

The State Registrar of Vital Statistics shall establish and maintain a confidential list of qualified adult adopted persons, birth parents, or adult birth siblings who have consented to release of their identifying information. Any consent shall indicate the person’s desired method of notification in the event that a match occurs, and shall also indicate whether the applicant desires release of identifying information if a match occurs after his or her death. The applicant may revise his or her consent with respect to change of address or method of notification.

A birth parent shall not be matched with an adult adopted person without the consent of the other birth parent unless:

  • There is only one birth parent listed on the birth certificate.
  • The other birth parent is deceased.
  • The other birth parent cannot be found by the Department of Health and Welfare or by a licensed child-placing agency.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Ann. Code § 39-258

The original birth certificate is available upon a court order or, in accordance with § 39-259A, when all parties have consented through the State adoption registry.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

Idaho Voluntary Adoption Registry, Vital Records Section, Bureau of Vital Records and Health Statistics

The above information was derived from the Idaho State Statutes

Illinois State Adoption Laws

ILLINOIS ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Comp. Stat. Ch. 750, §§ 50/18.1; 50/18.4

1.    The following persons may apply to the Illinois Adoption Registry:

  • Either birth parent
  • If the birth parent is deceased, the adopted person’s adult birth sibling or a birth aunt or birth uncle
  • Any adult adopted person or any adoptive parent or legal guardian of an adopted person under age 21
  • If the adopted person is deceased, any surviving spouse or adult child
  • Any adoptive parent or legal guardian of a deceased adult adopted person

Nonidentifying information may be provided to the adoptive parents, the adopted person, or legal guardian who is a registrant of the Illinois Adoption Registry.

 

2.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Comp. Stat. Ch. 750, § 50/18.4

The adoptive parents shall receive in writing the following nonidentifying information, if known, not later than the date of placement of the child:

  • The birth parents’ age
  • The birth parents’ race, religion, and ethnic background
  • The general physical appearance of the birth parents
  • The birth parents’ education, occupation, hobbies, interests, and talents
  • The existence of any other children born to the birth parents
  • Information about birth grandparents, their reason for emigrating into the United States, if applicable, and country of origin
  • The relationship between the birth parents
  • Detailed medical and mental health histories of the child, the birth parents, and their immediate relatives
  • The actual date and place of birth of the adopted person

No information provided under this subsection shall disclose the name or last known address of the birth parents, grandparents, the siblings of the birth parents, the adopted person, or any other relative of the adopted person.

Any adopted person age 18 or older shall be given the information listed above upon request.

The Illinois Adoption Registry shall release any nonidentifying information above that appears on the certified copy of the original birth certificate or the Certificate of Adoption to an adopted person, adoptive parent, or legal guardian who is a registrant of the Illinois Adoption Registry.

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Comp. Stat. Ch. 750, §§ 50/18.1; 50/18.3a

The Department of Public Health shall establish and maintain a registry for the purpose of allowing mutually consenting members of birth and adoptive families to exchange identifying and medical information. Identifying information shall mean any one or more of the following:

  • The name and last known address of the consenting person or persons
  • A copy of the Illinois Adoption Registry Application of the consenting person or persons
  • A noncertified copy of the original birth certificate of an adult adopted person

Each registrant may indicate whether exchange of information is authorized or denied. Written authorization from all parties must be received prior to disclosure of any identifying information. If information is disclosed, the department shall redact it to remove any identifying information about any party who has not consented to the disclosure of identifying information. Any other disclosure of information requires a court order.

Any adult adopted person, adoptive parent or legal guardian of an adopted minor, or birth parent of an adult adopted person may petition the court for appointment of a confidential intermediary for the purpose of exchanging medical information, obtaining identifying information, or arranging contact with one or more mutually consenting birth relatives.

Beginning January 1, 2006, any adult adopted person, adoptive parent or legal guardian of a minor adopted person, any birth parent, sibling, aunt, or uncle of an adult adopted person, or any surviving child, adoptive parent, or surviving spouse of a deceased adopted person who wishes to petition the court for the appointment of a confidential intermediary shall be required to accompany their petition with proof of registration with the Illinois Adoption Registry and Medical Information Exchange.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Comp. Stat. Ch. 750, § 50/18.1b

Beginning November 15, 2011, any adult adopted person who was born in Illinois on or after January 1, 1946, may complete and file with the registry a request for a noncertified copy of an original birth certificate. In cases in which the adopted person is deceased, his or her surviving adult child or spouse who has registered with the registry may request a noncertified copy of the original birth certificate.

If the registry confirms that a requesting adult adopted person, the parent of a requesting adult child of a deceased adopted person, or the husband or wife of a requesting surviving spouse was not the object of a Denial of Information Exchange filed by a birth parent on or before December 31, 2010, and that no birth parent named on the original birth certificate has filed a Birth Parent Preference Form where Option E (prohibit the release of identifying information) was selected prior to the receipt of a request for a noncertified copy of an original birth certificate, the registry shall provide the adult adopted person or his or her surviving adult child or spouse with an unaltered noncertified copy of the adopted person’s original birth certificate.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

  • Illinois Adoption Registry, Illinois Department of Public Health
  • Confidential Intermediary Service of Illinois, Midwest Adoption Center (MAC)
The above information was derived from the Illinois State Statutes

Georgia Adoption State Laws

GEORGIA ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Ann. Code § 19-8-23

1.    Information may be accessed by:

  • The adult adopted person
  • The birth parents
  • Adult birth siblings
  • The child of the adopted person, if the adopted person is deceased
  • The adoptive parents

The adoptive parents may access only nonidentifying information.

 

2.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Code § 19-8-23

When certain information would assist in the provision of medical care, a medical emergency, or medical diagnosis or treatment, a party to the adoption, a child, legal guardian, health-care agent of an adopted person, or a provider of medical services to a party to the adoption, child, legal guardian, or health-care agent may request that the department or child-placing agency access its own records on finalized adoptions for the purpose of adding subsequently obtained medical information or releasing nonidentifying medical and health history information contained in its records pertaining to an adopted person or the biological parents or relatives of the biological parents of the adopted person.

When the State Adoption Unit of the Division of Family and Children Services or a child-placing agency receives documented medical information relevant to an adopted person, the office or child-placing agency shall use reasonable efforts to contact the adoptive parents of the adopted person if the adopted person is younger than age 18, or the adopted person if he or she is age 18 or older, and provide the documented medical information to the adoptive parents or the adopted person.

Upon the written request of an adopted person age 18 or older or an adoptive parent on behalf of an adopted person, nonidentifying information shall be released regarding the birth parents and the adopted person’s birth, including the date and place of the adopted person’s birth and the genetic, social, and health history of the birth parents.

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Code § 19-8-23

Upon written request of an adopted person age 21 or older, the name of the birth parents shall be released if the birth parent has submitted an unrevoked written consent. If a birth parent has not filed an unrevoked written consent, the department shall, within 6 months of receipt of the written request, make a diligent effort to notify each birth parent, by personal and confidential contact, that a request for information has been made. The birth parent may then file an affidavit consenting or objecting to disclosure.

The adopted person also may petition the court to seek the release of information. The court shall grant the petition if it finds that failure to release the identity of each parent would have an adverse impact upon the physical, mental, or emotional health of the adopted person.

Birth parents and adult birth siblings also may access information about an adopted person using the same procedure. If the adopted person is deceased and leaves a child, such child, upon reaching age 21, may seek the name and other identifying information concerning his or her grandparents in the same manner as the deceased adopted person and subject to the same procedures.

The Office of Adoptions within the department shall maintain a registry for the recording of requests by adopted persons for the name of any birth parent, the written consent or the written objections of any birth parent to the release of that parent’s identity to an adopted person, and for nonidentifying information regarding any birth parent.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Ann. Code § 31-10-14

The original birth certificate is accessible only by order of the court or as provided by statute.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

Georgia Adoption Reunion Registry, Georgia Department of Human Services

The above information was derived from the Georgia State Statutes

Florida State Adoption Laws

FLORIDA ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Ann. Stat. §§ 63.162; 63.165

1.    Information may be available to:

  • The adopted person who is age 18 or older
  • The birth parents
  • The adoptive parents
  • Birth siblings
  • Maternal and paternal birth grandparents

 

2.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Stat. § 63.162

All nonidentifying information, including the family medical history and social history of the adopted person and the birth parents, when available, must be furnished to the adoptive parents before the adoption becomes final and to the adopted person, upon the adopted person’s request, after he or she reaches majority. Upon the request of the adoptive parents, all nonidentifying information obtained before or after the adoption has become final must be furnished to the adoptive parents.

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Stat. §§ 63.162; 63.165

Identifying information about a birth parent, an adoptive parent, or an adopted person may not be disclosed unless the respective party has authorized in writing the release of such information. If the adopted person is younger than age 18, written consent must be obtained from an adoptive parent.

The court may, upon petition of an adult adopted person or birth parent, for good cause shown, appoint an intermediary or a licensed child-placing agency to contact a birth parent or adult adopted person, as applicable, who has not registered with the adoption registry pursuant to § 63.165, and advise both of the availability of the intermediary or agency and that the birth parent or adult adopted person, as applicable, wishes to establish contact.

The department shall maintain a registry with the last known names and addresses of an adopted person, the birth parents, and the adoptive parents and any other identifying information that the parties wish to include in the registry.

The registry shall be available for those persons choosing to enter information therein, but no one shall be required to do so. A person who enters information in the registry must indicate clearly the persons to whom he or she is consenting to release the information, and shall be limited to the adopted person, the birth parents, the adoptive parents, birth siblings, and maternal and paternal birth grandparents. Consent to the release of this information may be made in the case of a minor adopted person by his or her adoptive parents or by the court after a showing of good cause. At any time, any person may withdraw, limit, or otherwise restrict consent to release information by notifying the department in writing.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Ann. Stat. § 63.162

The original birth certificate is available only upon order of the court.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

Florida Adoption Reunion Registry (F.A.R.R.), Florida Department of Children and Families

The above information was derived from the Florida State Statutes

Delaware State Adoption Laws

DELAWARE ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Ann. Code Tit. 13, § 924

1.    Family information may be available to the following persons:

  • The adopted person who is age 21 or older
  • All other parties to an adoption

 2.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Code Tit. 13, § 924

The department or agency may release nonidentifying information in its records to the parties to the adoption.

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Code Tit. 13, §§ 924; 929; 962

Identifying information shall not be released except by order of the court or with the consent of all parties when it is deemed by the agency to be in the adopted person’s best interests. In cases where the adopted person’s health or the health of any blood relative is concerned and the adoption agency has refused to release the health information, the court may, through petition by the adopted person, permit the party to inspect only that part of the adoption agency or court record containing medical information if it is needed for the health of the person or of any blood relative of the person.

As part of the adoption planning process, the department or agency may provide information to the birth parents and to the adoptive parents as follows:

  • In preplacement planning, identifying information shall be limited to the viewing of photographs, provided that such viewing is with the consent of birth parents and adoptive parents and that no additional identifying information is contained in the photographs.
  • After a placement has been completed, and prior to finalization of the adoption, identifying information may include, but is not limited to, the exchange of names, addresses, photographs, and face-to-face meetings, provided that:
    • The birth parents and adoptive parents request the exchange of information in writing.
    • The birth parents, adoptive parents, and the department or agency agree to the exchange of information as specified in writing.
    • The birth parents and adoptive parents acknowledge in writing their understanding that no legal right or assurance of continuing contact after finalization of the adoption exists.

An adopted person who is age 21 or older may request an agency to assist in locating a birth relative. When the relative is located, he or she may make a no-contact declaration. If the declaration is not made, the agency may release the birth parent or sibling’s current name, address, and telephone number to the adopted person.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Ann. Code Tit. 13, § 923

An adopted person who is age 21 or older may request a copy of the original birth certificate unless the birth parent has filed an affidavit denying release of identifying information.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

  • Adoption Registry, Delaware Office of Vital Statistics
  • The agency involved in the adoption
The above information was derived from the Delaware State Statutes

Connecticut State Adoption Laws

CONNECTICUT ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Ann. Stat. § 45a-746

1.    Nonidentifying information is available to the following persons:

  • The adult adopted person
  • The adoptive parents or guardian of the child
  • The legal representative of the adopted person
  • If the adopted person is deceased, any adult descendants, including adopted descendants

2.    Identifying information may be accessed by:

  • The adult adopted person
  • Any birth parent of the adult adopted person, including any person claiming to be the father who was not a party to the proceedings for the termination of parental rights
  • Any adult birth sibling of the adult adopted person
  • If the adopted person is deceased, any adult descendants, including legally adopted descendants

 

3.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Stat. § 45a-746

Nonidentifying information about the birth parents shall be provided in writing to the adopting parents prior to finalization of the adoption.

The birth parents may access the information at any time for the purposes of verifying, correcting, or adding information.

Information about the birth parents includes, but is not limited to:

  • Age at the time of the child’s birth
  • Ethnic background and nationality
  • General physical appearance at the time of the child’s birth
  • Education and occupations of the birth parents
  • Talents, hobbies, and special interests
  • Existence of any other children born to either parent
  • Health history of the birth parents and blood relatives
  • Reasons for placing the child for adoption
  • Religion of the birth parents
  • Any other relevant nonidentifying information

4.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Stat. § 45a-751

Any authorized applicant may, by applying in person or in writing to the child-placing agency or the department, request the release of identifying information. The information should be released unless:

  • The consents of every person whose identity is sought, as required by § 45a-751b, are not given.
  • The release of the requested information would seriously disrupt or endanger the physical or emotional health of the applicant or the person whose identity is being requested.

5.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Ann. Stat. § 7-53

Any person seeking to examine or obtain a copy of the original birth certificate must obtain a written order from the court in the jurisdiction in which the adopted person was adopted or born. The court will determine that the examination or issuance of a copy of the birth certificate of the adopted person by the adopting parents or the adopted person, if older than age 18, or by any other person will not be detrimental to the public interest or to the welfare of the adopted person or the birth or adoptive parents.

6.    Where the Information Can Be Located

  • Connecticut Department of Children and Families, Bureau of Adoption and Interstate Compact Services
  • The department and each child-placing agency involved in the adoption
The above information was derived from the Connecticut State Statutes

Colorado State Adoption Laws

COLORADO ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Rev. Stat. §§ 19-5-304; 19-5-305

1.    The following persons may have access to adoption records:

  • The adopted person who is age 18 or older
  • The birth parents
  • The adoptive parent, custodial grandparent, or legal guardian of a minor adopted person
  • An adult descendant of an adopted person or the adoptive parent, with the written consent of the adopted person
  • The adopted person’s spouse, adult stepchild, or adopted adult sibling, with the consent of the adopted person
  • The birth grandparent with the consent of the birth parent
  • The legal representative of any of the above listed persons
  • A former foster child who may or may not have been adopted, who is age 18 or older, and who is searching for a birth sibling who is also age 18 or older, who may or may not have been adopted and who may or may not have been in the foster care system

 

2.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Rev. Stat. § 19-5-305

For adoptions finalized prior to September 1, 1999: Access to the adoption record is available through a confidential intermediary who must obtain consent from the parties before release of information.

For adoptions finalized on or after September 1, 1999, all adoption records shall be open to inspection by persons listed above. Adoption records, as defined by § 19-1-103, include:

  • The adopted person’s original birth certificate and amended birth certificate
  • The final decree of adoption
  • Any nonidentifying information
  • The final order of relinquishment
  • The order of termination of parental rights

‘Nonidentifying information’ means information that does not disclose the name, address, place of employment, or any other material information that would lead to the identification of the birth parents and includes, but is not limited to, the following:

  • The physical description of the birth parents
  • The educational background and occupation of the birth parents
  • Genetic information about the birth family
  • Medical information about the adopted person’s birth
  • Social information about the birth parents
  • The placement history of the adopted person

The State Registrar shall prescribe an updated medical history statement that a birth parent may submit with the completed contact preference form. The medical history statement shall be a brief narrative statement written by the birth parent indicating medical information about the birth parent or other biological relatives.

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Rev. Stat. §§ 19-5-304; 19-5-305

Any of the parties listed above may file a motion with the court to appoint a confidential intermediary to determine the whereabouts of such individual’s unknown relative or relatives. No one shall seek to determine the whereabouts of a relative who is younger than age 18.

The State Registrar shall make available to any birth parent named on an original birth certificate a contact preference form on which the birth parent may state a preference regarding contact by an adult adopted person, an adult descendant of an adopted person, or a legal representative of the adopted person or descendant. The contact preference form shall allow the birth parent to voluntarily include his or her contact information in the adoption record and shall provide him or her with options to indicate a preference regarding whether he or she would or would not prefer future contact with the adopted person or adult descendant of the adopted person and, if contact is preferred, whether the birth parent would prefer contact directly or through a confidential intermediary or a child placement agency. The contact preference form shall also indicate that the birth parent can change his or her contact preference form by notifying the State Registrar in writing.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Rev. Stat. § 19-5-305

The contact preference form provided by the State Registrar shall include an option for the birth parent to authorize the release of the original birth certificate. An authorization to release may be exercised and submitted to the State Registrar at any time after January 1, 2006.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

  • Voluntary Adoption Registry, Colorado Department of Public Health and Environment
  • The child-placing agency involved in the adoption
The above information was derived from the Colorado State Statutes

California State Adoption Laws

CALIFORNIA ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Fam. Code § 9202; 9203

1.    Nonidentifying information is available to:

  • The adoptive person who is age 18 or older
  • The adoptive parent of an adopted person who is under age 18

 

2.    Identifying information is available to:

  • The adopted person who is age 21 or older
  • The birth parent of an adult adopted person
  • The adoptive parent of an adopted person who is under age 21


3.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Fam. Code §§ 8706; 8817; 9202

Nonidentifying information about the birth parents and adopted person, such as medical history, scholastic information, psychological evaluations, and developmental history, is provided to the adopting parents.

The department or licensed adoption agency shall provide a copy of the medical report, in the manner the department prescribes by regulation, to any of the following persons upon the person’s request:

  • A person who has been adopted who is at least age 18 or presents a certified copy of the person’s marriage certificate
  • The adoptive parent of a person under age 18

A person who is denied access to a medical report may petition the court for review of the reasonableness of the department’s or licensed adoption agency’s decision.

The names and addresses of any persons contained in the report shall be removed unless the person requesting the report has previously received the information.

4.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Fam. Code §§ 9201; 9203; 9205; 9206

The adopted person who is 21 or older may request the release of the identity of his or her birth parents and their most current address shown in the records of the department or licensed adoption agency if the birth parent or parents have indicated consent to the disclosure in writing.

The birth parent may request disclosure of the name and most current address of the adopted person if the adopted person is age 21 or older and has indicated in writing that he or she wishes his or her name and address to be disclosed.

The adoptive parent of an adopted person under age 21 may request disclosure of the identity of a birth parent and the birth parent’s most current address shown in the records if the department or licensed adoption agency finds that a medical necessity or other extraordinary circumstances justify the disclosure.

If an adult adopted person and the birth parents have each filed a written consent with the department or licensed adoption agency, the department or agency may arrange for contact between those persons.

Information about a birth sibling may be released to another sibling provided both are age 21 or older and have provided a written waiver.

Photos or letters and other personal property may be released upon request if the adopted person is age 18 or older and other conditions have been met.

5.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Health & Safety Code § 102705

The original birth certificate is available only by order of the court.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

  • California Department of Social Services, Adoptions Support Unit
  • The licensed agency involved in the adoption
The above information was derived from the California State Statutes

Arkansas State Adoption Laws

ARKANSAS ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Ann. Code §§ 9-9-504; 9-9-505

1.    Nonidentifying information is available to:

  • The adoptive parents of the child or the child’s guardian
  • The adopted person
  • If the adopted person has died, the adopted person’s children, widow or widower, or the guardian of any child of the adopted person
  • The birth parent of the adopted person
  • Any child welfare agency having custody of the adopted person

Access to identifying information is available to the adult adopted person, the birth parents, and any person related within the second degree through the Adoption Registry.


2.  Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Code § 9-9-505

Nonidentifying information is available upon request to any person listed above. Nonidentifying information includes the health, genetic, and social history of the child.

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Ann. Code § 9-9-504

A person eligible to register may request the disclosure of identifying information by filing an affidavit with the adoption registry that includes the following:

  • The person’s current name and address
  • Any previous name by which the applicant was known
  • The original and adopted names, if known, of the adopted person
  • The place and date of birth of the adopted person
  • The name and address of the adoption agency or other entity, organization, or person placing the adopted person, if known

The applicant shall notify the registry of any change in name or location that occurs subsequent to his or her filing the affidavit. The registry shall have no duty to search for an applicant who fails to register his or her most recent address.

The administrator of the mutual consent voluntary adoption registry shall process each affidavit in an attempt to match the adult adopted person and the birth parents or other relatives. The processing shall include research from agency records, when available, and when agency records are not available, research from court records to determine conclusively whether the applicants match.

The administrator shall determine that there is a match when the adult adopted person and a birth parent or other relative have filed affidavits with the adoption registry and have each received the required counseling.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Ann. Code § 20-18-406

The original birth certificate is available only upon a court order or as provided by regulation.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

  • Arkansas Mutual Consent Voluntary Adoption Registry
  • The licensed agency involved in the adoption
The above information was derived from the Arkansas State Statutes

End of Rope

When I come to the end of my rope, God is there to take over.

“…for He hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”
Hebrews 13:5

Giving

You may give without loving, but you cannot love without giving.

“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”  John 3:16

Arizona State Adoption Laws

ARIZONA ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Rev. Stat § 8-129

1.    The following persons may have

access to family information:

  • The adoptive parents or a guardian of the adopted person
  • The adopted person who is age 18 or older
  • If the adopted person has died, the adopted person’s spouse if he or she is the legal parent of the adopted person’s child or the guardian of any child of the adopted person
  • If the adopted person has died, any child of the adopted person who is age 18 or older
  • The birth parents or other birth children of the birth parents


2.   
Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Rev. Stat. §§ 8-121; 8-129

Nonidentifying information may be released upon request to any of the persons listed above. Nonidentifying information may include the health and genetic history of the birth parents and members of the birth parents’ families.

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation:  Rev. Stat. § 8-121

Court personnel, the division, an attorney assisting in a direct placement adoption, or an agency may provide partial or complete identifying information between a birth parent and adoptive parent when the parties mutually agree to share specific identifying information and make a written request to the court, the division, or the agency.

A person may petition the court to obtain information relating to an adoption in the possession of the court, the division, or any agency or attorney involved in the adoption. The court shall not release identifying information unless the person requesting the information has established a compelling need for disclosure or consent has been obtained.

An adopted person age 18 or older or a birth parent may file at any time with the court and the agency, division, or attorney who participated in the adoption a notarized statement granting consent, withholding consent, or withdrawing a consent previously given for the release of confidential information. If an adopted person who is 18 or older and the birth mother or birth father have filed consent to the release of confidential information, the court may disclose the information, except identifying information relating to a birth parent who did not grant written consent.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation:  Rev. Stat. § 36-337

The original birth certificate can be made available only upon a court order or as prescribed by rule.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

Arizona Confidential Intermediary Program, Arizona Supreme Court

The above information was derived from the Arizona State Statutes

Alaska State Adoption Laws

ALASKA ACCESS TO ADOPTION RECORDS

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Who May Access Information

Citation:  Alaska Code § 18.50.500

1.    Identifying information may be accessed by:

  • The adopted person who is age 18 or older
  • The birth parent

   The adoptive parent may access nonidentifying information.


2.   
Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation:  Alaska Code § 18.50.510

The State Registrar may release information regarding the birth parents at the request of an adoptive parent or an adopted person who is age 18 or older. Nonidentifying information includes:

  • The age of the birth parents at the child’s birth
  • The birth parents’ heritage, including ethnic background and Tribal membership
  • The medical history of the birth parents and blood relatives of the birth parents
  • The number of years of school completed by the birth parents when the child was born
  • The physical description of the birth parents at the child’s birth, including height, weight, and color of eyes, hair, and skin
  • The existence of other children of the birth parents
  • The religion of the birth parents
  • Whether the birth parent was alive at the time of the adoption
  • Other information provided by the birth parents for disclosure to the child, including photos and letters

3.    Mutual Access to Identifying Information

The State Registrar shall disclose to a birth parent, at that parent’s request, the most current name and address of an adopted child as they appear in the State Registrar’s adoption files if the child is 18 or older and has requested in writing that the information be disclosed if ever requested by the birth parent.

4.    Access to Original Birth Certificate

Alaska Code:  § 18.50.500

After receiving a request by an adopted person who is age 18 or older for the identity of a birth parent, the State Registrar shall provide the person with an uncertified copy of the person’s original birth certificate and any change in the birth parent’s name or address attached to the certificate.

An adopted person age 18 or older or a birth parent may submit to the State registrar a notice of change of name or address. The State registrar shall attach the information to the original birth certificate of the adopted person.

5.    Where the Information Can Be Located

Bureau of Vital Statistics, Alaska Department of Health and Social Services

The above information was derived from the Alaska State Statutes

Encouragement

We should seize every opportunity to give encouragement.  Encouragement is oxygen to the soul.

“A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it!”
Proverbs 15:23

Give Your Troubles Away

Give your troubles to God: He will be up all night anyway.

“He will not allow your foot to slip; He who keeps you will not slumber.” Psalm 121:3

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