The Special Chosen One

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If you are an adoptee, have you felt alone in the world with no one to talk to; wondered how other adoptees deal with their emotions; or wondered WHY you were placed for adoption?

If you are a birthparent, have you ever wondered how your child might feel towards you; what their life was like growing up; or how you would react if they ever showed up on your doorstep?

If you are an adoptive parent, are you puzzled with how to deal with your child’s feelings towards adoption but don’t know what to say; thought about helping them search for their birth parents; or how you would handle the situation if they contacted their birth mom?

If you are someone who knows someone who is adopted, have you ever been curious what it was like to be adopted; you don’t know what to say to them about being adopted; or you don’t know how to support them if they are searching? If you answered yes to any of the above questions, then this book, The Special Chosen One, is for you.

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Adoption Search Tips

This week I’m continuing with more tips on Adoption Search & Reunion to help those searching for birth families or birth parents.

  • Place of Adoption

Learn what agency, attorney, or court handled your adoption. You cannot get information from a file until you know where that file is kept.

Once you know where your adoption was handled, you can write to them to obtain whatever information is available, according to the state law; either identifying information or nonidentifying information.

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RESEARCH CHART

  • Keeping a Research Chart

You need to check every possible source of information. This will verify facts you already have, but it will also expose information not yet found. Start by researching the easiest and most obvious trail first, enabling you to deal with the more difficult and stressful problems of researching later on.When you are taking notes, always write on standard-sized paper.

  1. Be prepared when going to the library or courthouse. You do not want to end up writing on scraps of paper, the backs of envelopes, or gum wrappers.
  2. Only write on one side of the paper. Later on when you have spread everything out on the dining room table or living room floor, you will be thankful that you don’t have to flip the papers over to read something on the other side.
  3. Try not to use any abbreviations so you will not have trouble deciphering it later.
  4. If at all possible, make a photocopy of the piece of information you obtained, or take a picture with your cell phone. You need to write the source of that information somewhere on the copy.
  5. Make sure that you even keep track of negative or dead-end results. This will save you time in backtracking.

Here is an example of a Research Chart:

             RESEARCH CHART

Library     Description of     Purpose of
Call #           Source             Search        Date     Results

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She’ll Never Make it Through the Night

When Dabney Hedegard was six weeks pregnant, doctors discovered an eight-inch tumor embedded in her chest. She was diagnosed with cancer and opted to postpone treatment until further along in her pregnancy. This marked the beginning of a ten-year battle against cancer, cardiomyopathy, mitral valve prolapse, pulmonary embolism, acute pneumonia, kidney failure, respiratory failure, and heart failure. In each instance, Dabney was given less than a 30 percent chance of surviving, and twice doctors told her husband, “She’ll never make it through the night.” But each time the doctors had given up hope, God intervened, miraculously rescuing Dabney from death’s doorstep. Part medical drama, part account of divine intervention, Dabney’s extraordinary story is a fast-paced, emotional roller-coaster ride that will have you crying one moment and cheering the next. Dabney’s journey is an indisputable testament to the undeniable power of prayer.

Newly published book, When God Intervenes, by Dabney Hedegard. A remarkable story of her journey towards death and back again. Once you start reading this book, guaranteed you won’t be able to put it down.  It can be purchased at Amazon.com.  Visit her blog and watch a 13-minute video to get a glimpse of her experience at http://www.dabneyland.com

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